Marriage over wedding


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   by Edward    10 Comments  →

Hoohum… a bit teary eyed just preparing this post. This is one emotional blog entry.

My parents is celebrating their 43rd wedding anniversary today, 8 December 2009. Forty-three. That’s quite a long time.

As their ‘real’ child (they have lots and lots of children, hehe… more on that later) I know things haven’t always been easy on them. They have gone through a lot. My brother’s birth (my older brother is paralyzed from birth), family issues, character differences, economic crisis of 98, and of course, raising me (hahaha… kidding).

I often got reminded that no matter how beautiful your wedding is, how extravagant and how amazing the pictures turned out, all those pages of memories is nothing, zero, if you don’t have a great marriage afterwards.

Don’t get me wrong, I work in this industry, but seeing them working their marriage day by day, I often got reminded that no matter how beautiful your wedding is, how extravagant and how amazing the pictures turned out, all those pages of memories is nothing, zero, if you don’t have a great marriage afterwards. That is why, deep down in our hearts, we know there’s nothing more heart-warming like the sight of grandad and granny walking down the road, hand in hand.

Everybody who is doing weddings week in week out could easily got bored seeing the flowers, the dress, the pictures, the decorations, etc. But we are always inspired by stories of great marriages, where you know that ‘love’ is not just a phrase on wedding invitations, but often means tears, sweat and sacrifices.

I often said this to my couples just before I left them after the party, “Congratulations on your beautiful wedding. Let’s have a more beautiful marriage.” I say this by no means that I am an expert. Far from it. But only as a fellow married couple who reminded one another that the journey just had begun.

So to my parents, congratulations on getting through this far. I know, first-hand, that the road hasn’t always been easy. But I pray to the Lord that starting from now on, in your old age, only laughter and joy will dominate your days.

UPDATE: Just like it was meant to be, I bumped into this great companion article for this post from the New York Times: Married Happily (With Issues) – great read for us young couples.

Love you guys,
Edward+Francy

PS: We managed to get their wedding pictures. Now these, are the real-real vintage guys :) This how they do it forty years ago.

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  • Teddy

    Don’t give up easily, people =)

    Group huggssss

  • Kay

    Ko Ed! you look so much like your dad!!!!

  • http://what-took-us-so-long.blogspot.com Lei

    Dear Mas Edward, we’ve never worked together, but from your portfolio and this blog, I adore your works esp. ur sense of humor. I like this post, dan boleh ijin attach it ke blog saya? Thanks ya.

  • Vonne

    thank you for sharing , love this post so much :)

  • irene hartono

    edward,so happy to met you few weeks ago…surprise u still remember me…hohoho…

    edward copy-an papanya banget yaaa…aahahahha

    anyway..ur blog is wowwwww….meaningful banget…bener bangett…

    hope to see you laen waktu..

    CHeers,
    IRENE.H

  • edwardsuhadi

    @Leony: Thank you for sharing this. I believe you could still do that 25th anniversary commemoration. Showing that love could still go on :)

    @Ian+venven: Iya nih, mirip bokaps :)

  • Ian Lim

    Quote “I often got reminded that no matter how beautiful your wedding is, how extravagant and how amazing the pictures turned out, all those pages of memories is nothing, zero, if you don’t have a great marriage afterwards”. This is true and reaaally inspiring! :D Muka elu bokap banget dward! Hehe…

  • http://www.leonyleony.blogspot.com Leony

    This is one of the best posts that I’ve ever read in your blog. And those pics, tell us million of words that our mouths can’t tell. Congratulations to your parents, and of course congratulations to the whole family.

    I’ve always dreamed of having my parents 25th wedding anniversary celebration since I was a little kid, and I’d like to have their vintage wedding pictures reproduced to be put in that ocassion. I said to my mom before I left for college in the States, “Mom, when I’m 24, pretty sure I’ll have a good job, and I must have some money to give you and Dad a nice 25th wedding anniversary party. I’d like the family to dress up, and you two will the the stars of the day”. But I guess not all dreams could come true since my father passed away 3 months before their 20th wedding anniversary.

    So cheers to the all the couples in the world who can stand the tests of marriage, till death do them part!

  • Felix Wira Putera

    Congratulations for Om Wahono and Tante Cun!

  • venven

    Goodness me kooo…
    u have ur mom’s eyes and ur dad’s full moon face..
    how thoughtful..